Getting Over Yourself

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DescriptionIn life and in ministry, our reactions reflect our deep convictions. Often those convictions are good, biblical and life-giving, but sometimes they are unexamined and ha rmful to those around us. And while God never says that self-improvement can come solely from within, he does encourage his people to examine themselves and aim to become more like Christ. We prayerfully change—we get over ourselves—by seeking to more closely imitate Jesus the servant.But how do we explore our hearts and lives without drifting into self-absorption? What situations could benefit the most from a time of reflection? How can we ensure we have good self-reflection habits?In Getting Over Yourself, Caroline Spencer answers these questions and others as she provides a model for healthy Christian self-reflection. She works through the rationale of growing a self-reflection habit while avoiding the pitfalls, and outlines with examples a useful structure that encourages us to see how God’s grace is shaping and transforming us. Our goal all the way through is to grasp a deeper understanding and wonder of the gospel, and to become more effective in loving service of others.You can download for free the self-reflection worksheet as a PDF or a Word document.Table of contentsForewordPreface: A short history of this bookPart 1: Healthy self-reflection and the Christian life1. What is healthy self-reflection?2. The ‘self’ in self-reflectionPart 2: A simple model for healthy self-reflection3. What to reflect on4. Overview of the 4-step self-reflection model5. Step 1: Describe what happened6. Step 2: Explore what was going on for you7. Step 3: Assess to identify opportunities for growth8. Step 4: Enact by putting into practicePart 3: A healthy self-reflection toolkit9. Summary of the 4-step model (with questions)10. Self-reflection worksheet11. How to reflect with others12. Identifying personal valuesConclusion: Making self-reflection a regular practiceAcknowledgementsAbout the authorCaroline Spencer is a graduate of Moore Theological College, Sydney and has spent the last 20 years working in Christian ministry. She is a qualified pastoral supervisor, providing a safe, brave space for ministry workers to reflect on their work practice and become wiser practitioners, for their sake and the sake of the people they serve. Prior to her pastoral work, Caroline spent three years developing and refining material to help Moore College students build healthy self-reflection practices to prepare them for a life of Christian ministry.Commendations Have you ever had a conversation with someone and then wondered ‘What just happened!?’ It’s a great question, and glib answers don’t help much. In all the relationships and events of our lives, there’s one common and complicated factor: us. There’s a lot going on in our heads, and we often have trouble understanding ourselves and how we affect other people. Being self-aware isn’t easy—it’s hard to step outside of an event and see what was really going on, both inside and outside ourselves. And yet self-awareness is vital in every relationship we have. The more self-aware, the better. Caroline Spencer has done us a great service by writing this clear and simple guide to a process of self-reflection—a way to pause and understand events and interactions with people, and what we might learn about ourselves and others. The wisdom in Getting Over Yourself can help us answer that very important question, ‘What just happened?’ —Al Stewart, Former National Director, Fellowship of Independent Evangelical Churches Australia Caroline Spencer has written a valuable book, enriched by life experience and years of working to refine a tool for self-reflection with adult students. She clarifies that this tool, based on seeing self in relationships, is not a feel-good self-help tool but takes the reader on a journey of improved self-awareness and humility through conscious reflection. Caroline paves the way for people to reduce subjective ruminations and instead learn from observable facts. Her examples show how freeing this exercise is. It gets beyond the default of blaming others, enabling us to get over our pride and learn how to bring one’s best to others. This is about serving others without losing self-responsibility—a key to Bowen family systems. In Caroline’s sources, she acknowledges God imprinting his wisdom on the world as part of common grace. I am glad this accessible book has come to fruition, as I have no doubt it will be helpful to many. —Jenny Brown, Author of Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life’s relationships Show more