Author: Kati MortonPsychological theory & schools of thought | Self-help & personal development | Popular psychology | Assertiveness, motivation & self-esteemPublished on 9th December 2025 by Headline Publishing Group (Headline Press) in the United Kingdom.Paperback / softback | 256 pages 232mm x 154mm x 22mm | 318g 'A powerful guide to breaking free from the exhausting cycle of control and stepping into a life built on trust, resilience, and self-acceptance' JAY SHETTY 'This book made me stop and look at the ways I've tried to keep myself safe that are no longer serving me. Kati doesn't shame us for our coping - she helps us understand it' JONATHAN VAN NESS Many of us were told to stuff our feelings down when we were younger. We were taught that that our emotional reactions and responses should be controlled so we didn't embarrass or upset our parents and those around us. However, if that control oozes over into our relationships it's considered a bad thing. Controlling our friends or romantic partners is seen as toxic. Control is a precarious thing. So, what are we supposed to do? In Why Do I Keep Doing This? licensed family and marriage therapist, Kati Morton, explores this common struggle with control. Kati shows how our upbringing and anxiety are often connected to our struggle to take up space. We can feel like we are too much by just existing in the same place as someone else, or that we are less deserving of their time and care. This struggle with asserting ourselves or taking what we require can harm our development. We sometimes think the only way to feel okay and get what we need is to please everyone else first. Why Do I Keep Doing This? is a vital tool in helping us understand why control can be so attractive, but if left unmonitored can become detrimental to our lives. Kati will shed light on shared struggles as readers follow her through some key points of growth in her own life while incorporating what she has learned as a therapist and content creator who knows how to create lasting healthy change. This book gives readers the ability to not only ask themselves why do I keep doing this? but also have the insight to find a real answer.
